When does flirting become cheating?

There is a very thin line between flirting and cheating and a little loss of balance could create problems

‘If a man, who says he loves you, won’t tell you the details of a private conversation between him and another woman you can be sure he is not protecting your heart. He is protecting himself and the woman he has feelings for. Wise women simply see things as they are, not as their low self-esteem allows.”

Flirting and cheating have always been a topic of concern in relationships. Living in the 21st century only makes things more difficult to fathom with so much going on all the time.

Earlier, flirting was accepted as normal, at least, till you were in a relationship. Today though, flirting doesn’t seem to be considered a taboo irrespective of your relationship status. With time the dynamics of relationships, too, have undergone a vast change. Yet, flirting remains a fine line that should be treaded cautiously. For a slight slip here and a little loss of balance there can leave your partner hunting for a lawyer. But, the larger question remains, when does flirting become cheating?

We all, at some point, must have come across or at least heard of relationships where partners accept flirting as normal and look at it as a part of ‘social life’ and not personal life. Yet, others will throw tantrums at the sight of their husbands looking at another lady.

On the other hand, some experts even believe that flirting a bit is sometimes good for your relationship. But the trick remains to balance and identify, where and when one goes wrong. Hold on, before we get there, let us get some clarity on the difference between cheating and mistake, for our own selves. Cheating is intentional whereas a mistake is an accident.

However, flirting remains a conscious decision that individuals make and while that may be acceptable in some relationships, it is important to understand what is acceptable and what’s not. The only way to get over this is to discuss with your partner to understand what makes him as well as you uncomfortable.

It is also important to understand that cheating is very subjective, particular actions cannot determine that you or your partner is cheating for sure. Intention is the key factor to be analysed when it comes to dissecting actions. That said, you can determine for yourself if you are getting carried away by the flirting to cheat, check out the pointers to determine.

Another way of not overstepping the line is to listen to your heart. It will always clearly indicate where you are going wrong and what you really want. Many a times, one indulges in flirting just for some action, but when the desire for action arises from the heart, it turns into cheating.

Moreover, discuss with your closest friend on approaching the issue and keep an ear out to what they say. If you hear, ‘Stop it, you are married.’ Take it as a warning that you are going wrong somewhere.